Anxiety & Perfectionism Therapy in Wauwatosa & Online
“I can’t get my brain to shut up.”
You’re overwhelmed and exhausted. The thoughts never seem to stop. They’re there when you try to go to sleep at night, when you wake up in the morning, during your work meeting, while you’re on a date, and even when you try to use all those great coping skills you already have.
You’d love to be present and enjoy getting together with friends, but you can’t stop worrying about what they must be thinking about you.
And after every social interaction, you replay conversations over and over in your head, analyzing what mistakes you made and what you could’ve done or said differently.
You seem to either be worried about the future or focused on the “what ifs” in every situation, or you get stuck in the past
Constant rumination and overthinking seems to be your default setting, and you’re feeling stuck.
But I want you to know that you’re not alone and there’s a reason your brain is thinking non-stop.
Why Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Often Feel Anxious and A Need to Be Perfect?
Growing up with emotionally immature parents often means you felt on edge, not knowing how your parent was going to respond because they were either emotionally distant, explosive, or a mix of both.
It also meant you didn’t, and likely still don’t, feel emotionally safe.
Emotionally immature parents are usually emotionally distant or explosive and often a mixture of both.
This left your little nervous system feeling on edge, unsafe, and insecure.
Overthinking and perfectionism may have developed as ways for your to cope and protect yourself.
To cope with their dysregulation, you learned that being as “perfect” as you could be would either get a positive response from them (which was rare) or at least kept you safe from their yelling or other consequences.
Rather than staying present in a reality that felt unsafe, you found a way to protect yourself by retreating into your mind.
You’re body is incredibly smart and coped and protected you in the only ways it knew how at the time.
But now, you no longer need that same protection and you would love to feel more calm and grounded by reducing the anxiety and overthinking.
You want to get out of your head, so you can start living your life the way you want to.
And we can work on that together.
You Are Not Alone! Anxiety is Common Among Women.
According to numerous sources, women are twice as likely as men to experience anxiety throughout their lifetimes. What causes this difference between men and women? Female biology, hormones, different coping styles, and environmental factors, such as the way women tend to be raised in our society, are a few of the factors that have been identified.
You may have noticed this if you grew up with brothers or have male friends with similar childhoods. Although they also experienced growing up with emotionally immature parents, they may be less likely to be experiencing anxiety as a result of that.
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